- 21 Things to Stop Saying Unless You Hate Fat People
- Stop:2. Acting like a food coach whenever a fat person is eating “healthy” foods5. Acting surprised when a fat person is active. 6. Literally anything about dieting, eating less, or exercising more in the context of fatness.... 7. Compulsively interjecting health into any conversation about fatness. 8. Equating fat with health. 10. Recommending weight loss as a treatment or solution to anything, even if you are a doctor. 13. Gratuitous mentions of food, inactivity, bodily processes, etc when discussing fat people. 19. Suggesting that a fat person do something or not do something in order to look less fat or more flattering. 21. Any statements that imply that it’s not okay to be fat, that people shouldn’t get fat, or that people should try to weigh less. Credit
- Love one another - Christianity
- Dear Virgie: 4 Tips for Finding Body Positive Friends - Wear Your Voice
- Stop the Shaming and Spread the Love by JimmySmashVlogs
- What happens when you call your fat friend beautiful. by Your Fat Friend @ Medium - "As fat person, I’m rarely told I’m beautiful. When I am, it nearly always comes with a qualifier. “You’ve got such a pretty face. If you lost forty pounds, you’d be a knockout!” “That jacket looks great on you. It hides your midsection so well.” None of them are compliments — they’re wishes for the future. They’re congratulations for hiding unappealing parts of my body, or for some perceived disfunction. They are conditional love, promised but undelivered. You wear it so well."
- 7 Lies We Need to Stop Telling About Men's Struggles With Body Image @ Mic - 1. Men don't struggle with their looks.2 The standards of attraction for men are pretty low, anyway. 3. The media doesn't really target men. 4. Men's sexual identity has no effect on the way they view their bodies. 5. Their race doesn't affect it, either.6. Participating in sports is all men need to feel better about their bodies. 7. Men would say something if they really needed help.
- How To Love A Sexual Partner With Body Image Issues by Amanda_Trusty - "1. Unless She Specifically Tells You Otherwise, Keep The Lights On 2. Take Your Time. 3. Touch Her. Everywhere Does she try to cover her stomach? Move her hands out of the way and kiss it. Does she pull the sheets up over her thighs? Rip them away and grab them tightly. Every woman wonders what her butt looks like during sex, so make it known that you're loving every bit of it. Every bit of her. Touch, squeeze, kiss, caress every part of body 4. Talk To Her.Tell her how much she turns you on, how beautiful she is, how great she is at reading your body, and maybe consider this an offering, something you won't receive in return. Tell her how much she turns you on, how beautiful she is, how great she is at reading your body, and maybe consider this an offering, something you won't receive in return. don't necessarily mean you have to spoon her or cuddle. But lay a hand on her stomach and kiss her arm. If you do spoon her, put your hand directly on her outer thigh or her butt, and kiss her back. Stroke her hair." This is also for women who have a female or male partner (just change "her," or "she," to "him," and "his") and NEVER "help" a partner try to lose weight, it gives in to diet culture and kinda tells the other person you don't love them for them.
- **17 Statements That Mean Something Completely Different To Plus-Size Women from BuzzFeed
Stop saying "I look so fat"
Stop saying "I look so fat" stop seeing fat as a negative thing. Understand that sometimes a compliment doesn't sink in with them as they are mistreated and have to deal with fatphobia all the time from peers, co-workers and even doctors.Love them unconditionally and stop saying things like "you're not fat.."
- 11 Offensive Phrases You Didn’t Realize Are Fat Shaming @ The Body Is Not An Apology - 1. “Ewww, I feel so fat.”2. “You’re really pretty for a plus-sized girl.”3. “Stop saying you’re fat, you’re beautiful.”4. ”Do you really want to eat that much?”5. “Are you having some health issues?”6. “Did you lose some weight? You look SO much better!”7. “I don’t think that this (insert any clothing item here) was made for your body type.”8. ”Are you sure you can handle (insert any exercise/sports activity here)?”9. “How did you get so fat?!”10. “You’re a good person, but your weight is actually a big turnoff.”11. “Do I look fat?”
- "I need you to know that when you talk disparagingly about your own body, and then you say “but not you, you’re beautiful!”, your compliments are impossible to believe. That if you disapprove of yourself, vivisect your own body, and then compliment me, I will remember how you talk about both of us. If you think of your own fat body as repulsive, I will believe that you are also repulsed by mine. I know that you intend to talk about yourself. I need you to know that you are also talking about me." - A request from your fat friend: what I need when we talk about bodies. @ Medium
losing weight is not always a good thing
- See " Trigger" Dieting & diet culture = pro-ana,pro-ED
- When "You look so skinny" does more harm than good
- Trigger warning : My own story/stop body and food policing - if someone loses weight don't compliment or say anything by WLI
- "Don't comment on a person's weight loss... didn't they look good before?"
Speak up against hatred
- Melissa Harris-Perry 'a bit distressed' by Oprah's weight loss... | MSNBC - "In an open letter to Oprah Winfrey, Melissa Harris-Perry details all of Winfrey's accomplishments, saying that they are much more important than her dress size."